Caring for the Caregiver

Caregivers have so much that they are dealing with. We want to help but sometimes don’t know how.

Here are some helpful tips:

1. Communicate by email rather than phone whenever possible. It gives the caregiver the freedom to respond at a time that is convenient for them.
2. Practice “Don’t Ask, Don’t Call.” Resist the need to call and ask how their loved one is doing.
3. Visit only when invited. Some patients like visitors, while others like quiet. Respect their wishes and their healing process.
4. Instead of saying, “Call me if you need anything,” let them know what you are available for: rides to the hospital, bring lunch to them at hospital, buy groceries, make phone calls, etc.
5. Refrain from telling the caregiver they look tired. They know they look tired. They are too exhausted to even be standing. Tell them you admire their courage, their commitment, their devotion to their loved one. Find something positive and uplifting to say.
6. Once things calm down, offer to take the caregiver to coffee or lunch. If they are not up for it, bring them a meal or send them a restaurant gift card. They will be thrilled you thought of them.
7. Pray. Prayers are powerful and they work! Both the caregiver and patient really appreciate them.